I’m a water sign, and I feel it.
Astrology made it onto my list of interests some time ago, and I’ve always found that my sun sign, Scorpio, suits me quite well.
My husband, Jared, is a Libra, which is an air sign, and people would be able to guess that he was attributed with air upon spending a day with him. My little Fae is a fire sign, which I’ve mentioned before, and it couldn’t be more obvious to us. Now we have another little air sign, Hawk, and I’m really starting to see how the opposite element ends up being needed in order to help balance people out–at least in my family.
Fae gets wild–a trait that we noticed in her from the very beginning. We love our little “wildling” (with no relation to the Game of Thrones term “wildling”, although I admit that I love that fantasy series). She can get very heated. We often call her our little “fireball” (and then we saw one, in the sky, and I don’t think I’ve called her that much since).
Water calms Fae. When she gets really worked up I either calm her down with a wet wash-cloth, wiping away her tears and dampening back her sandy hair, or I fill the bin (my solution for having a standing-only shower) with water. Or, sometimes, I hop in the shower with her. Last night at the end of our shower, which we took because she had a meltdown over (probably) an ant, Fae said to me, “I’m all better, Mumma.” Water makes her feel good.
I like to stare at a fire and zone-out, and I never feel more relaxed than while lying in bed during a thunder & lightning storm (I think lightning qualifies as fire).
Jared likes to lie on the ground in the sun, or have a glass of wine, or a book, in his hand. He finds these things grounding.
Jared’s mentioned that he can’t get Hawk to calm down and relax on him like he could with Fae. He says he’ll only settle down for me–a little mamma’s boy. But I know that it’s just because Jared’s hair isn’t long enough. Hawk calms down when he can grasp onto something and have his body feel completely supported. I snuggle him onto my shoulder and he’ll grab for my hair. When he finds it, I feel his strong little body melt onto mine.
It’s not that we only need the opposite element to help us to relax. Fae likes campfires too, and I love swimming in the lake, or feeling the wind tangle-up my hair. But, it seems to be the opposite element that we seek out in order to find some equilibrium during a struggle.